Parenting can be tough and it can also be very rewarding. It takes a lot of work to be a great parent. What you do and say can affect your child and can stay with them for a lifetime and be perpetuated through your grandchildren and great grandchildren.
You are the ultimate role model – your child will be looking to you for the lead.
Here are 5 tips to help you become a better parent.
1. Start with yourself
You need to tell yourself regularly that you are good enough and are doing a good enough job in parenting your child. If you don’t look after you, who is going to? There’s enough negativity around without being negative about yourself.
What can you do to boost your self-esteem on a daily basis?
How you start your day off is a big deal. You want your children (and you) to start their day off the right way, every day. Starting the day off with a smile is a good start (if you’re tired or irritated, don’t show it). Think how infectious smiling is.
Continue your smiles throughout the day – even with strangers!
3. Ask about their day and listen.
Remember, and take a moment to think back to when you were a child and how important some little things were to you. Recall how it felt when you were upset about having no one to play with at break times or when some one was calling you names. Spend time with your child and listen to them. Stop what you’re doing and really listen to them. Your child will value this time.
Spend time with them and do something they enjoy and instead of you being in charge, let them be in charge. This can shift energies and perspectives and give that sense of power to your child.
Can you remember when you were a child and everyone seemed to be telling you what you could and couldn’t do?
4. Be thoughtful
A great way to be a great parent is to show your child how much they mean to you. You’ll do routine things on a daily basis which are possibly taken for granted. You can make things more personal with occasional little surprises. They might take the form of their favourite treat or even a small note. You might put it in their lunch box, or reveal it when they get home from school.
5. Spend time as a family
Make sure your child knows they have a place in your home and are important to your family. Eating meals together can improve the time you spend together as a family and be a place for lots of talking and helping. Plus you know that they are eating the right foods!
What are your tips to help you be a better parent?